Multicultural Dialoguing in the Post “Political-Correctness” Era
By Gabriela Melano, Ed.D.
When I first arrived to the USA in the late 80’s, the Political Correctness Era was in full fledge. A fascinating advance towards improved integration of people’s of all type, those were times when people paid close attention to the use of language. For instance, in an interest to promote higher awareness around gender matters, gender inclusive language was proposed and has gradually become more common in every day communication. Examples of gender inclusive language are the use of “his or her” as opposed to the use a male only or “firefighter” when referring to firemen and firewomen… and the list goes on and on.
I found this focus on language use to be particularly interesting as it gave a focal avenue for entering the often-delicate conversations that increased multicultural understanding entail. As a result of those dialogues, whether they were carried in the quasi-safety of a classroom setting or the more volatile environment of diversity workshops, it was thrilling to be a witness of enhanced awareness of how language can include or exclude, respect or disrespect people from diverse life paths.
This stage in the field was certainly worthwhile and necessary—and is still relevant, as there are still long ways to go and territories to explore in the development of inclusive language. However, what I believe we appear to be more ready to embark in our new era is to get deeper and, if we are successful, start building bridges among differences.
Let me share one concrete example of a principle I have found useful when facilitating multicultural dialogue. I call it the “intent as well as impact principle”. When talking about differences of any type, it is quite possible (and almost expected) that we may inadvertently offend someone. Without a need for a guilt-driven feeling, it is often helpful to acknowledge that we did, in fact, say something offensive as it helps to restore some level of trust and comfort in the conversation. A very similar spirit is also required for those who may be at the receiving end of the offense. That is, when letting someone know that they stated something offensive to us, we need to keep in mind and heart that, most likely, they have not realized they were disrespectful to us. Sharing our feelings, thoughts and perspective without guilt or a self-righteous attitude will prove to be critical ingredients to deepen and further those conversations that are so critical for improved multicultural understandings.
An esteemed colleague in the field of race relations, Glenn Singleton, states the following in his workshops on racial matters in education. “It is hard for an African American man to walk around in society having to constantly prove that he is not a thief nor a murderer. In conversations with Caucasians I have learned to realized that it must be tough for a White person, of any gender, to go about the world having to prove that they are not racist.”
Food for thought: Remember any conversation you had around diversity matters that did not quite end in improved understandings. Re-track the steps in the dialogue. Would being aware about the importance of intent and impact have helped? If so, how differently may have the